Saturday, November 10, 2012

Got a Life

I guess I was satisfied with my life back in the Panhandle.  I had a decent job, made decent money.  I had my own house, some friends, freedom, a church family.  I played in a band.  My garage constantly needed to be cleaned, but I was ok with all of that.  And then I moved to San Antonio. 

When I found out that I wasn’t going to get the librarian job at Hereford, I started sending out resumes everywhere I was willing to live.  Though I got a couple of local interviews, I didn’t get those jobs.  I had another horrible interview in the Dallas area.  When I got the message that SAISD wanted me to come interview, I wasn’t sure what to think.  I was still hoping something local would come open so I would not have to consider moving.  I also considered not even responding and just spending another year teaching. But since I just finished my degree, I thought that I really should take whatever library job I could get.  I needed to get my feet wet and get some experience.  So I got the job offer in late June of 2011 and by mid-July I was making plans to move across the state.  It was going to be the first time I ever lived far from the home I had known for the past 35 years.  But I figured change could be good and if it wasn’t I could always go back.

And I realize that change is good.  When I first moved here, I was happy with the house I got and having access to all the things such a large city has to offer.  I still lead a fairly quiet life – especially since I didn’t have a lot of friends here.  But I got to see my friends Marty and Brent from time to time since they lived in Austin.  I went to the movies by myself a couple of times and just enjoyed a fairly quiet life.  But I still wanted something a little more so I decided to try online dating sites again.  I thought that since I now lived in a big city, there might be more choices – maybe out of the 1.3 million people living here, there could be a decent single guy that wasn’t creepy, desperate, perverted, etc.  I did go on one date with a guy I met on eharmony, but he definitely wasn’t it.  He seemed nice enough, but no sparks at all.  And then I decided to give Catholic match another try.  I thought that surely there are a bunch of single Catholic guys around here – maybe I could meet just one of them. To my complete shock, I did. 

I saw Matt’s profile and read that he enjoyed Scrabble and going to theme parks.  Though he was 10 years older than me, I didn’t mind that.  My only hesitation was that he had never been married.  I figured that might indicate something was wrong with him.  But I figured I couldn’t find out if I didn’t take a chance so I sent him a message.  And he replied back.  Then we started emailing.  I could tell that he was very smart and that he seemed pretty nice.  A few weeks later he called me up and asked me on a date.  A few months later, he finally kissed me.  Now we’ve been together for a year.  Because I came to this new city and met this amazing man, I started to realize that although I had a decent life back in Canyon, I don’t think I was really “living.”  So many new doors have been opened up here.

Though we don’t go to movies a lot, I probably went to more movies last year alone that I’ve done in the last 5 years total.  I’ve experience more artistic and cultural events than I ever did back home.  Before I came here, I had been to a total of 4 “pop” (non-orchestral) concerts in my life.  After moving here, I’ve been to 4 in just the past year.  I’ve attended two symphonies, played in a symphony, and still play in a band.  I’ve eaten a LOT of great food (and gained 15 pounds).  I’ve gone to Sea World and Six Flags multiple times.  I’ve competed in three Scrabble tournaments.  I have something to do almost every night of the week.  Even though sometimes it is overwhelming, it really is a good kind of busy that makes life more interesting. 

Several of you have commented about how much my life has changed in the past year.  It certainly has and I couldn’t be more happy.  I love my new house here; I love my job; and I really love my wonderful boyfriend.  This experience has been a blessed change.  Not everything is completely picture perfect of course – I’m still trying to find a church home that I love, but I have to say other than that, so far, so good.  I’ve finally got a life. 


Grace-WorkinProgress said...

It is good to find balance and writing always helps me get where I need to go. Glad you took the leap and found what you didn't even know you were looking for.

JAN said...

25I am so happy for you! I'm in that'transition phase' of life and am treading water, living vicariously through you...and loving it!

Thanks for sharing and God Bless!


Anonymous said...

Catching up on your blog. Good for you!